The Princess Myth

My husband and I were together in the car last week and he said, “Explain to me how you are not a princess.  I just don’t see how you have ever had one hard day in your life with me.” I was so stunned by his comment that I just started crying.  

The night before we had dinner with friends my husband said, “Women actually enjoy criticizing their husbands.  They love it.  They would never leave us because then they wouldn’t have someone to complain about.” 

Here is the tea, the piping hot, organic tea… oh ye men of planet earth.  Women want nothing more than to have one single day in their life during which a man doesn’t do something that is so ridiculous that we are FORCED to say something.  One freaking day.

You say that your wife has changed. Guess what? Your wife is not the girl you married because you ruined that girl.  

You put a dog collar around her neck and tied her to the totem pole that is the laundry, the full-time care of children, the cleaning, the shopping, the cooking, the dishwasher, the diapers, the doctors, and the pets.  This totem pole reaches higher than Jack’s beanstalk fellas, and the chain with which she is tied to that pole is short.  

What makes you think that your wife WANTS to do all of these things by herself?  What makes you think your wife ENJOYS bitching at you, doing all the work and not having sex? 

If your wife is a bitch, then you aren’t helping enough.

If your wife never wants to have sex, you are not helping enough. 

I promise you this, if you did all the laundry, all the cooking, all the shopping, and all the childcare, your wife would be the girl she was before she married you.  

She is not a princess because she does not live the life of a princess, and she does not want to have sex with you when she is living in an emotional dungeon.

Your wife never planned on changing from the fun, sweet, optimistic woman she was when you met her. 

Ask yourself dear husband, how have you changed?  

Don’t answer so quickly, think about it.  

You used to call your wife all the time, you were on your best behavior around her.

You were fun and funny and showed her you cared about her.  

You didn’t expect her to cook for you on every date, you didn’t make her do your laundry and clean your toilet before you took her to a movie.  You have changed just as much as she has, but you don’t see it because you benefit from all of the jobs and responsibilities you have put upon your wife.  

You feel rested because you didn’t get up 5 times last night with a baby. You walk out of the house after eating breakfast food that someone else put in the refrigerator for you.

You feel horny because you feel good after getting enough sleep, taking a shower, going out into the world in clean clothes that someone else washed for you.  No wonder you demand sex and attention and kindness, you are still a whole person, not broken into a thousand slivers of who you used to be.

From now on, when a man asks why his wife isn’t the fun girl that he married he had better take a long, hard look in the mirror.  

His wife is still the person she once was, it’s up to him to dig her out of the grave he buried her in.